The Great Escape-Goat
The Great Escape-Goat: Blaming is worthless. It does nothing to help resolve a situation. After you’ve decided whom to blame, you’ve still made no progress. Blaming is for people who do not want to accept accountability for what they may have done or what needs to be done. The twisted satisfaction and escape people feel they get from blaming someone else is saying to the world that they don’t feel they have enough character or courage to step up to the plate and take care of the problem. Blamers are whiners who live in a world of denial. The ironic thing about not accepting accountability for your fate is that until you own your problems, you can’t change them.
“Placing the blame or judgment on someone else leaves you powerless to change your experience. Taking responsibility for your beliefs and judgments gives you the power to change them” Byron Katie
Responsibility: Is different. Responsibility is saying it doesn’t matter how the situation came to be or who did it, this issue is here now, I will take care of it and I will do my best. Responsibility is courage and character. Responsibility, however, is not bondage to a life of servitude with every issue not yours. It is simply stepping up to the plate and handling what life gives you without whining about it.
From the book: This River Called Life, A Letter to My Children