Table of Contents

Yes long, but short sections…

 

To My Children

Dedicated to

Preface

 

I:  WOUNDED PEOPLE

 

My Mother’s Influence

My Father’s Indifference

Not My World

My Personal Quest

Stolen Lives…My Childhood Memories

On My Own

 

 

II:  YOU FIRST…PERSONAL ENRICHMENT

 

ATTITUDE IS LIFE…LIFE IS ATTITUDE

   Attitude First…all Things being Equal, Attitude Wins

   The Power of our Thoughts…Nothing Good Comes from Thinking Bad

      Wrong or Meaningless Thoughts

   Rejection is Merely Redirection

   Expectations…Expect Only to Have a Good Time

   The Wisdom of Patience…

      Waiting is the Hardest Part

   Live Simply

   Forgiveness… the Answer to Almost Everything

   Attitude and You

      Gratitude

   Affirmations

 

TO KNOW YOURSELF

   Authentically You

   The Mistake of Ego

   Every Person Has a Talent

   You Always Live With You

 

LOOKING OUT FOR NUMBER ONE

   You First

   The Selfs…Self-Worth, Self-Esteem and Self Acceptance

   Self-Acceptance and Children

   Physical Health is a Lifestyle

      The Great American Pastime

   Don’t Compromise Yourself

   Deceived Me Not

 

THE ESSENCE OF WHO YOU ARE

   Pride is Self-Respect

   Character and Personal Values…the Measure of Your Soul

      The Great Escape-Goat

      Personal Values

   Kindness is From Your Heart

   Trust…Allow it to be Earned

   Courage is One More Day

   Do the Right Thing

   Consequences and Lessons…Life’s Teacher

 

INTELLIGENCE AND WISDOM

   The Power of Your Mind

   Imagination is the Beginning

   Intelligence is not Enough…Common Sense Prevails

   Knowledge is Power

   Wisdom…the Reward of Age

   Decisions…Confront Reality

      To make no Decision is Making a Decision

   Intuition…when You Absolutely Know

   Be Careful what You Say

   Listen, Listen, Listen

      The Art of Listening

 

SUCCESS AND FAILURE

   Failure is no Accident

   Success is Definitively Personal

   Creation not Competition

   Opportunity is all Around Us

   Perseverance and Determination…The Real Secret to Success

   What I’ve learned from Business

   My Idea of Success

      Beware of Free                                

   Integrity

 

  FINANCIAL ADVICE AS A WAY OF LIFE

      Excessive Spending is Financial Destruction

      Debt

      Credit Cards and the FICO

      Saving is a Habit

      Retirement

      Employee Benefits Package

      Investments

      Real Estate

      Life Insurance

      Financial and Estate Planning

      Taxes

      Giving

 

 

III:  THE RIVER…IN HARMONY WITH LIFE

 

FLOW WITH THE RIVER                                                                      

   Letting Go is to Set Yourself Free

   Lighten Up…the Chill Factor

   Get Into Life

      What I Almost didn’t do

   Change and Starting Over

   Afraid of Change

   No Waiting for Tomorrow

   Risk is Opening up to Life

   From the Beginning

      Where You Belong

   Bloom where You are Planted

   Keep Life Balanced

   Say “Yes” to Life

 

REALITY AND TRUTH

   The Truth is There

   Perception and Perspective

      The Story of Twin Boys

   Some People don’t want to Hear the Truth

  

LIFE’S ANSWERS

   Life has Only One Direction…Forward

      My Life Lesson #1

   The Answers don’t Always Come when You Want Them

   The Natural Laws of Life

      Law of Vibration and Attraction

      Law of Polarity

      Law of Rhythm

      Law of Relativity

      Law of Cause and Effect

      Law of Gender

      Law of Transmutation

  

MEANING OF LIFE

   Living Well is the Best Revenge

   Family

   Priorities

      The Small Stuff…It’s all Small Stuff

      A Lesson in Pettiness

   The Silent Survey

 

IV:  PEOPLE AND RELATIONSHIPS…HEAVEN OR HELL 

       ON EARTH  


 

OUR RELATIONSHIPS

   My Life Lesson #2

   Relationships are Essential to Life

       The Seasons of Relationships

   Value People and Treat them Well

      My Life Lesson #3

     Friends…Those Other Special Relationships

   Intentions

   Teach People how to Treat You

   You don’t Know a Person Until You go Through a Life Crisis with Them

   Difficult People

      My Life Lesson #4

      Character, Personality and Behavior Disorders

      Codependence

      People Who just aren’t Nice

         The Scorpion and the Frog

         For No Reason

   Close Relationships…the Heart of Our Existence

   Find the Right People and Let Go of the Wrong Ones

   Love Relationships

   The Need for Love

   Love is as Necessary to Life as Air

   Finding Love…Love Stories

   

PARENTING AND CHILDREN   

   Your First Family

      Build Self-Esteem First 

   Parenting is not for Everyone

      Just a Thought

   Our Precious Children

   Children are a Lifelong Commitment

   Say No to Children

   A Parent’s Advice

   Teenagers…Challenging Times

      Rick on Life and Teenagers

         “When I Ran Away”

   Character Disorders in the Teen Years

   The Pleasure Chaser

   Teenagers Have Got to Have Boundaries  

      A Mother’s Intuition  

   Love is not Enough

 

MARRIAGE AND DIVORCE

   Marriage…The Ultimate Relationship

   Together Forever…The Greatest Happiness is Family Happiness

   Divorce

   Divorce and Children

   Another Chance at Love

 

 

V:  THE STORMS OF LIFE

 

LEARN TO HANDLE THE DOWNTIMES

   A Good Life is not Easy

   No Way to Handle Life

   Crossroads and Wrong Roads

   Surprise Attacks…the Unexpected

   Solutions not Problems

   The Long and Winding Road

   Cherish Your Time Alone

  

GRIEF AND TRANSITION

   The Land of No Return

   Grief will Change You Forever

   Our Broken Heart

 

INSANITY AND NONSENSE

   Control Yourself not Others

   Addictions are Simply not Worth It

   Obsessions will Drive You Crazy

 

EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE

   Good Emotions are Contagious

   Enemy Emotions (Negativity, Stress, Depression, Anxiety, Fear)

   Pain and Isolation

   Trauma and Life Crisis

      My Life Lesson #5

   The Past…You don’t Live There Anymore

   Highly-Sensitive People

   Emotions and Children

 

 

VI:  SATORI…SPIRITUAL ENLIGHTENMENT

 

ALL THAT IS WONDERFUL…EMBRACING OUR REAL POWERS

   The Gateless Gate…Only Positive Attitudes Allowed

   Manifesting Your Life

      Why is it Taking so Long to get What I Want?

   Passion Rules

      Selling Out

   Nature’s Beauty

   Animals and Pets…Nature’s Most Wonderful Gifts

   Never Stop Dreaming

      Dreams are Visionary

      It’s Never too Late

      Translating Your Dreams

   The Search for Happiness

   And Always…Faith, Hope and Believing

   Fateful Coincidence  

   Your Spiritual World

   Do You Believe in Miracles?

   To Make a Difference

      The Power of One Person

      How One Person Made a Difference

   The Power of Love  

   When all Else Fails

   Love Will Find the Way

 

Closing Thoughts

Profound Realizations…What I Believe About Life…by Velinda                         

What I’ve Learned From Life…by Velinda                                              

 

Reference Books:  (Appendix) 

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